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| Jesus tells a difficult parable to his disciples in Matthew 25:1-13—it urges us to wonder how we keep the lamp lights of our hearts flickering through the night. |
Joshua 24:1-3a, 14-25
Psalm 78:1-7
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Matthew 25:1-13
© The Rev. Seth Olson, 2026
This sermon was preached on the twenty-fourth Sunday after Pentecost at the Episcopal Church of the Holy Apostles to view the video of this message please click here.
Holy God, may my words be your words, and when my words are your words, may your people be wise enough to know the same. Amen.
If you’re comfortable, close your eyes for a moment and imagine a beautiful wedding you have witnessed.
Perhaps the flowers, the ambiance, or the music still brings a smile to your face. Maybe you picture two people looking at each other with that extraordinary mixture of joy and nervousness: Here we go. We are really doing this.
Possibly it happened in a church. Maybe in a courthouse, a backyard, or beneath a tree. Perhaps what made it beautiful was seeing two people whose love had not always been welcomed finally surrounded by people ready to celebrate them.
Now open your eyes.
When you pictured that wedding, did you immediately remember something going wrong?
Someone forgot a ring. The weather ignored every prayer offered on its behalf. A microphone stopped working. A small child decided the middle of the vows was the perfect time to announce a personal emergency.
Sometimes those moments become the stories everyone treasures.
And then there are the bridesmaids who forgot the oil for their lamps.
Wait. What?
Jesus gives us a wedding story today, but its ending hardly leaves us ready to raise a glass. Five bridesmaids enter the celebration. Five find themselves outside a closed door. Their plea to be admitted receives a chilling response: “I do not know you.”
I think we need to let that trouble us. Especially if we have ever been told that we do not belong, that our family does not count, or that God’s welcome stops somewhere short of us. We cannot pretend that this is an easy story, but we can listen carefully to whom Jesus is addressing and what he is asking them to consider.
Jesus is speaking privately to his disciples. They have asked him about what is coming. They want to know when things will happen and what signs to watch for. These are people already following him. And Jesus tells them a story about waiting.
The wedding scene includes attendants carrying lights to welcome a bridegroom and join the celebration. Now, we cannot reconstruct every detail of the arrangements, but we know what happens here: the bridegroom takes longer than anyone expects.
The attendants wait, and wait, and wait. Eventually, every one of them falls asleep. That little detail matters. The wise ones sleep. The foolish ones sleep. Nobody makes it through the night by sheer determination. So before we turn this parable into another demand to try harder, pray harder, or somehow become less human, let us notice that Jesus does not single out the tired people for condemnation.
They’re all tired. Some of us can enter this story right there. We know what it is to wait for test results, for reconciliation, for grief to loosen its grip. We know what it is to work for a more just world and wonder why the same cruelties keep finding new life.
We know what it is to pray and then face another morning when the answer that we want has not come. The waiting gets long. And faithful people get tired.
Then, at midnight, someone shouts that the bridegroom has arrived. Everyone wakes and tends to their lamps. Only then does the difference become clear: five have brought additional oil, and five have not. “Give us some of your oil,” the five ask.
The others refuse, fearing there will not be enough for everyone. While those without enough go looking for more, the bridegroom arrives. The celebration begins. The door closes.
At this point, I want to stop the story. Couldn’t they have walked together in the light they had? Couldn’t someone have gone looking for them? Couldn’t the bridegroom have opened the door?
Those questions reveal something about what we long for—and perhaps about the welcome we have learned to expect from Jesus. But Jesus leaves us with this unsettling ending. The opportunity to join the procession has passed. There is an urgency here that we must take seriously.
Our lives matter. Our responses matter. The love we keep postponing, the repair we keep putting off, the neighbor whose suffering we keep meaning to notice: these belong to the present moment God is giving us.
Then, in closing, Jesus says, “Keep awake.” Which sounds strange, because everyone in the story has just been asleep. Perhaps we hear those words and imagine that Jesus wants us constantly on edge, anticipating him leaping out from behind every turn like a holy jack-in-the-box.
But the wise bridesmaids were able to rest. They had prepared for the possibility that the night would be long. What might that kind of readiness look like in us?
I have often thought of the oil as hope, peace, and love—the gifts that sustain the light of faith. That is an image we can pray with. Jesus himself never tells us exactly what the oil represents. He leaves us room to consider what sustains a life ready to respond to him.
And the teachings surrounding this story give us somewhere to begin.
Jesus speaks about servants caring for a household, people using what has been entrusted to them, and people feeding the hungry, welcoming strangers, tending the sick, and visiting those in prison.
Readiness takes shape in the way we live. It grows as we learn to recognize whose needs we have overlooked. It grows when we listen to neighbors whose experiences of bigotry have been dismissed. It grows when persecuted people find that our welcome includes their whole lives, their relationships, and their gifts. It grows through prayer, generosity, repentance, and the ordinary work of keeping our promises.
These practices help form people who can answer when love calls. And we need one another in that formation. Our psalm speaks of telling the next generation what God has done for us. Faith is nourished through stories passed from one person to another.
Saint Paul tells a grieving community to encourage one another with resurrection hope. He makes room for their sorrow while reminding them that death will not separate them from Christ.
There is oil to be found in that kind of community. In someone who prays beside us when words will not come. In a meal delivered without fanfare. In a hard truth spoken with love. In the person who remembers our name, makes room at the table, or helps us to begin again.
There are responses no one can make for us. Each of us is invited to practice love, to receive grace, to turn toward God. Yet so much of what sustains us comes through other people. Sometimes we carry the light. Sometimes we need someone to sit beside us until we can see it again.
And beneath all of this is God’s grace.
Our collect begins with what God has done in Jesus: making us God’s children and heirs of eternal life. Then it asks that this hope might shape us.
We begin as people whom God loves. Within that love, we learn how to live. So, perhaps the invitation from this challenging parable is simply this: tend what sustains us and what helps us respond to God’s presence.
Make room for prayer. Receive the rest your body needs. Seek reconciliation. Share a meal. Listen to someone whose life is different from yours. Let someone encourage you. Offer encouragement in return.
And when you find yourself weary, remember: all ten bridesmaids slept.
Our waiting may be long. We will need grace for the night. We will need practices that deepen our love. We will need one another.
This story begins with a wedding feast and points toward an eternal feast at this very Table. May the hope of joyfully feasting at the Divine Banquet shape how we live today. May we tend the light entrusted to us. And when Christ calls, may we be ready to rise and meet him.
Amen.
